Friday, January 09, 2009

Life Is A Big Puzzle

Last year was a year of personal change and adjustment for me and my pooch. I am happy to say we have both adjusted and embraced the changes and can hardly wait to see what this year will bring.

George and I applied for our marriage license on Monday so there is no turning back now. We have 85 days now to seal the deal, and the days are ticking by. I suspect we will tie the knot as soon as the necessary arrangements can be made, and if it is up my beloved, we will be married before we head out on our cruise on Valentine's Day.

Speaking of a cruise, that is one of the things I have never done but always wanted to do. I am really excited about being somewhere warm in the middle of February. The winter in New Hampshire has been rough so far and we are only a month into it. It will be wonderful to bask in the sunshine in a far off place while everyone else up here is freezing and shoveling snow. Carnival...take me away!

So I've been out shopping for clothes for the cruise. The spring lines are out and I found a few nice tops and a couple pairs of shorts. I also have to find a dress for Jon and Nikki's wedding in April. I am hoping that I can find something in blue because no one has chosen that color to wear. The mother of the groom is wearing yellow and the mother of the bride is wearing lilac. The bridal party will be in various shades of pink so blue would be good and I look good in blue. That is my quest.

I am also looking for a nice understated kind of dress I can wear to be married in. I don't want to wear white...been there done that already. I don't think black is appropriate although black is very slimming. George and I both had big weddings the first time around so we don't need that headache. What we want is a small gathering. Our kids, my parents, brothers and George's brother, sister in law and 2 nephews, a JP to officiate and some music and food. Then we need a cake and some champagne, maybe a flower or two. That's it...that's all I want. I think we can pull it off, but can we pull it off without it all blowing up into more than we want? Time will tell.
It's my feeling that your wedding should be YOUR wedding, and it should be up to the parties getting hitched to have things their way. I know from personal experience that that is not always the way things go. My first wedding was paid for mostly by my parents so the decisions were not always mine. Don't get me wrong, I was truly grateful for the lovely day/night my ex husband and I had. I had a beautiful wedding with 130 people in attendance. But several of those people I didn't even know because they were people my parents felt they had to invite. I'd never seen some of these people before nor have I seen them since.
I want our day to be ours with just immediate family there. Hopefully our friends will understand. George and I have discussed throwing a party/reception after we get back from our cruise. That seems to be the most frequent question/comment anyway so I think it's a good idea. We want those friends who are closest to us to be able to celebrate our happiness with us in some way.

Anyway...the new year is starting off with a lot to do but I am happy to say I am thrilled with the tasks at hand. I am the first to admit I said many many times I would never get married again. I was convinced that it was going to be me and my pup and that was it. It took a very special and persuasive man to warm my heart and change my mind but I wouldn't have it any other way. We're a good match, doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that. I'm very very lucky.

One bit of drama from the sticks over the last couple of weeks. George's son Patrick and his girlfriend Kiley have ended their 4 year relationship. Not Kiley's idea and she is hurt and depressed over the whole thing and I do feel for her. But she is only 20 and has her whole life ahead of her. I am sure she will eventually find some strength and move on. Not a good start to the new year for her, I am afraid.

On that note, I suppose I should get busy and start taking the ornaments off the Christmas tree. I know, I know, it's January 9th. But we put the tree up just before Christmas and it looked so pretty there in the window. It is time though and tonight is the night. It's cold and windy outside so it's a good indoor activity.
Afterwards, perhaps I will go back to working on the jigsaw puzzle I started last weekend. We got a few for Christmas and I have found that George likes working on them too. A good pastime on a cold winter night.

Warm hugs to all my blogger friends.


LadyStyx said...

May wanna start here:

Thast's where we got our minister.

As for what you wear, maybe a them wedding that will allow you to wear black if you like? Better yet, black is absolutely acceptible now if you want to:

or even here:


LadyStyx said...

Good heaven the typos!
That's not Thast's
theme not them


ChicagoLady said...

I know all your blogger friends are very happy for you, and since we can't be there in person, we'll be supporting you in spirit.

Have fun on your cruise! Have you asked George what he thinks of you wearing black to your wedding? LOL

Punkn said...

What an awesome, happy post.

Wear what feels good and you feel pretty in.

To prepare for your cruise, I would suggest you go to People who have gone on cruises like yours give all sorts of suggestions on what to do and what not to do.

All the best to you and George!

AliceKay said...

Such a sweet, heart-warming post. Your happiness comes thru in your writing, Lainie.

Have fun on the cruise and enjoy your time (in the warm sunshine) away from everything. (by the sure to take pics, too) :)

Tori_z said...

I'm glad 2009 is looking like a better year for you. :)

Have fun on your cruise. :)

spacegirl60 said...

Yes, let the wedding be yours and yours all the way. We'd gotten married up at Reno by ourselves. It is what hubby wanted and since I had been married before with more fanfare than I wanted at the time this was perfect for both of us. Yes, people are slightly hurt but when they really love you they get over it.

By the way...Congratulations! Getting the license is a big deal.

Karla said...

You know how happy I am for you *hugs* Wish I could be there to see your tears of happiness! Love ya!

Intense Guy said...

I am very happy for you Lainie - you and George ARE the perfect couple and I'm sure Huntababes thinks so too.

Its alway nice to visit a heart-warming, happy blog and yours has been the "sunniest" by far that I visit.

I hope you and George thoroughly enjoy the warm weather and the cruise!

And no matter what you wear - I hope you truly and completely happily experience your wedding - wear black if ya want - I'm sure George will only have eyes for your eyes and smile anyway.